Let her without sin….

cast the first stiletto.

Nomad moved to the area for school. I’d seen her around on some of my online things, and when she contacted me to ask about what clubs in the area were OK, I was helpful. We hung out a few times, I showed her the area, she was working with me on her first day, when my club decided to get nasty with me about working days, and attacking my self esteem.

She moved from an area with very CLEAN dancing, not even any “spreads” or a pole. But she learned hustling from the best, and prided herself on consistent 500$ nights.

In my city, that DOESN’T happen. There’s so many clubs here its all but impossible to make that much. And YES, its NUDE, you “show off the goods” on occassion, though some girls more than others….

You see where this is heading? Its not a good fit for her.

Apparently she flipped out on a couple of nontippers, tossed an ashtray, sprayed them, walked out, etc. So basically, she got herself fired. She’s a minor in a liquor club, so same boat as me, not a ble to hustle. And it KILLS her, with her hustle skills and background. Me too, but I don’t treat it with her air of entitlement. She went to rant about it to our dancer community, and hte other girls ripped her a new one, telling her to quit dancing, etc. I was sympathetic to her, because i kNOW how frustrating it is.

I thought I could sortof call us friends, after all the effort i put into making her comfortable here, recommending clubs, and resources, and vegan grocery stores and resturants.

So how am I supposed to feel when she refers to the club I was working at until recently as a “filthy whorehouse”. NEVER having danced there…. simply because it doesnt serve alcohol, and has less strict rules on dances? For being ‘less strict”, its the EXACT thing she does in a couch dance at the club she just left! Only difference is she has to keep the dress on, and I can let them look as I’m playing with their hair or touching their faces.

I explained that i’m SURE it was over her boundaries, but BY NO MEANS a whorehouse, and i was hurt by her ignorance about it.

No response.

But she still insists on it. In even more of her writings, and conversations, she STILL says she “refuses to work in a whorehouse” and demeans the whole thing.

I am NOT friends with anyone THAT self centered and judgemental.

Is it too hard to just say “Thats outside my boundaries so I can’t work there”? Why do you HAVE to attack your own stripper sistren like that?

Like one of hte other girls said, Nomad… Tough Times show your true colors, I guess you ARENT the capable, compassionate earth mama you think you are.

~ by dolcearia on November 18, 2007.